Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Recalculating

Around the time that the personal GPS was created, my father purchased one.  I am from a rural area in North Dakota so what the GPS has programmed as a road, several times, was a field.  Repeatedly, the annoying female voice stated, "Recalculating", only to direct us to another field.

This came to mind during my devotion time.  To sum it up, the devotion was about me making plans and being stressed about them while God wants me to just trust in Him and the plans He has for me.  How many times has He said to me, "Recalculating"?

I believe that a - God is sovereign, and b - we have free will.  To me that means, He has a plan for my life and yet He knows that I will not always follow it.  He wants me to go one direction but, unlike a GPS, knows that I won't.

I can look back to several poor decisions in my life and still see how God was present during that time.  I couldn't see that while I was in the midst of the mess that I had created.  Yet, He was still there, protecting me from my self-destructive behavior because He had something better for me.  During those phases of my life, I would have never imagined that He was preparing me to serve Him.  But that was exactly what He was doing.

Let me end with this reassurance, written by David, from Psalm 62:5.

"Find rest, O my soul, in God alone;
my hope comes from him.
He alone is my rock and my salvation; 
he is my fortress, I will not be shaken." 

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Dating Your Spouse, A Chance to Reconnect

This past weekend has been wonderful, something that I haven't experienced in a long time.  Our children were in three different states, leaving my husband and I with time together, alone.  He even took a day off work to spend it with me.  I'm thinking that "Quality Time" must be my Love Language.  It meant the world to me that he would take time from his hectic schedule to just hang out!

We golfed.  Thankfully, I have a very patient husband.  We went to one of our favorite places for breakfast.  We had an invigorating time at a virtual shooting range, saw a really great movie, and ended the evening having a nightcap with friends.

Recently, I've been considering what our "empty nest" will feel like.  While, God willing, we are still eight years away from actually being empty nesters, having our oldest one year from high school graduation has made me ponder what it will be like when it's just the two of us at home.  What will we talk about?  What will we do?  Will we be bored?  Will we make each other crazy?

This weekend gave me just a little glimpse into our life after our children leave our home.  To be honest, I truly enjoyed the time I had to spend with my husband.  We didn't have any awkward lulls in conversation.  We laughed...a lot!  Don't get me wrong, I'm not ready for our kiddos to fly the coop quite yet.  I'm anxiously awaiting this evening when we will have everyone at home.  These past few days have just been a promising look into our future.

How do you keep you marriage fresh?  I have always thought that it is difficult to set aside one-on-one time for date nights.  With children in activities and a husband who travels frequently, we spend much of our time simply getting to where we need to be.  But if you don't make your spouse a priority now, how will you recognize them when your children leave your home?

I know that we still won't do this perfectly.  We probably won't be one of those couples who have a set weekly date night.  Sometimes, date night may just be putting the kids to bed and then playing cribbage or golf on the Playstation.  My hope is just that we will always keep our marriage as the second most important relationship in our lives, second only to our relationships with God.

So, I would love to hear from you.  What are you favorite date night activities?