Monday, May 14, 2012

What Kind of Mom Are You?

That title can be read two different ways.  One version could mean, "What do you like to do with your kids?" or "How do you choose to discipline?".  Another version means, "Can you believe that mom...?", stated in a most judgmental tone.

Here is the kind of mom that I am.  I have been a single mom and a married mom.  I am a mother and a step-mother (not the evil kind).  I have been a breast-feeding mom and a bottle-feeding mom.  I have been a working mom and a stay at home mom.  I have been a mom who reads to her children and a mom who has scooted them away because I just needed to be alone.  I have been the mom and the dad while my husband was deployed.

I'm sure that I could go on for a while writing various descriptions about my form of motherhood.  However, my point behind all of this is, when did we decide that we could judge each other's choices?  When did it become okay for us to decide what is best for another mother and her child(ren)?

I recently read an article about how we as a society have decided that it is okay for us to criticize one another and be very public about it.  I certainly don't condone gossip.  I do, however, firmly believe in the old adage, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

There are certainly unfit parents.  That is an entire different situation.  A child should never be allowed to stay in an environment where they could potentially endure harm.

I think it's time that we take a look at the words that leave our mouths and possibly consider if they should have just stayed in our heads.  There are several verses in the New Testament about the tongue and what a powerful weapon it can be.  Let's make sure that we are using it for good, to encourage one another in this very challenging, yet rewarding journey, we know as parenthood.